“Recently my ex emailed me (I’ve blocked him from calling or messaging me). He wants to try the relationship again. Previously we were together one-and-a-half years. I don’t know what to make of it. It threw me off. Is it ever OK to go back to an ex?” —A.S. Certain exes tend to hold a special […]

Confession: I write mostly about pop culture now because it’s interesting. What we gravitate to or are repulsed by reflect the gauge of what we deem acceptable for our culture, our (sub) communities, ourselves and others. I also write about it because it’s an easy pitch to editors even on the most serious of sites […]

Gabourey Sidibe attended the Golden Globes Awards Sunday night. And in what has become a time-honored (and vile) tradition anytime she appears anywhere and happens to be photographed, some viewers thought it would be a good idea to mock her weight. Again. There was, of course, the flat-out name-calling, which was clear fat-shaming. And then there […]

If you’ve been watching Bravo’s “Blood, Sweat & Heels,” then you already know Demetria Lucas doesn’t mince her words. So far, we’ve seen Lucas, an author and relationship blogger dubbed “the Black Carrie Bradshaw,” call out her five co-stars for antiquated views on women’s leadership and the general belief that all men are “cheaters.” While this assertiveness has been championed […]

It’s a celebration! Join me on Sunday, Jan. 12  8-10PM in Brooklyn at Bedford Hall to watch the second episode of  Bravo TV’s new hit show ”Blood, Sweat & Heels”.   If you can’t make the screening, make sure to tune in to Bravo on Sunday, 9/8c for the second episode.  

“My boyfriend has a woman friend who knows every move we make. They talk constantly, and she knows everything he does before I get an update. They grew up together and are super close. Is this just friends being friends or suspect?” —B.A. I can’t give you a definitive answer based on the information given. I […]

Back in September, Saturday Night Live earned the ire of outspoken fans when the show announced its new cast lineup, which failed to include a black woman, a glaring omission. It didn’t help matters when black cast member Kenan Thompson blamed the show’s diversity problem on a weak talent pool. The SNL cast had not included a black woman since Maya […]

We’re witnessing the democratization of celebrity. There’s the selfie phenomenon, and those impromptu photo shoots in which everyone seems to take part, even for the most unceremonious occasions. The exploitation of our ordinary lives is faciliated by Twitter, Instagram, YouTube and Facebook. Our lives are everywhere. Everyone is everywhere. Everyone is special, therefore no one […]

It’s a celebration! Join me on Sunday, Jan. 5 8-10PM in Brooklyn at Bedford Hall to watch the debut episode of  ”Blood, Sweat & Heels” on Bravo TV. If you can’t make the screening, make sure to tune in to Bravo on Sunday, 9/8c for the first episode.

Over the weekend, the New York Times published “A Reluctant Bride Conquers Her Fears” in its Weddings section. The story focused on a black couple who said “I do” on Dec. 14. It was a celebratory tale with a happy ending, but some women found themselves in tears before they finished. “I’m crying over this Demetria,” […]