“It amazes me the double standards of cheating: Friend cheated on wife; both their families more or less were upset but shrugged, expected her to stay/forgive. She then cheated two years later and everyone was screaming he should leave her. Why is a woman cheating more unforgivable?” —F.T. We live in a patriarchy that’s full of […]

I can’t say I’m all that surprised about the backlash against the folks who have been denouncing R. Kelly lately. I called on people who still supported him to rethink that position after the Village Voice interviewed Jim DeRogatis—the journalist who broke the story of R. Kelly’s sexual conduct with underage girls nearly 15 years […]

A woman wrote in yesterday to say that her husband’s ex girlfriend had asked him to be the godfather of her new baby. Hub’s Ex has asked him to be God-dad to her 6wk old son. The same Ex that caused problems when he and I got together, the same Ex that I told him to […]

So… I am convinced that R. Kelly’s publicist secretly hates him and is masterminding his downfall. First, that completely illogical #askrkelly hashtag last week that basically just gave bored at work people a reason to go-all-the-way in for jokes. And now this radio interview… sorta. Village Voice runs basically a “Death to R. Kelly’s Career” story […]

I lack the energy-at the present time- to do a full “In Defense of Beyonce’” post, though as the writing around this album gets more ridiculous by the day, I’m sure I’ll be inspired to string something together out of sheer frustration soon.   In the meantime, I need to say this: Ya’ll do realize that […]

If you’re reading this, you have an Internet connection. And because you have said connection, then you are undoubtedly aware that Beyoncé Knowles released an album out of nowhere last week on Friday. For the better part of the last 96 hours, the Internet has been going HAM about Beyoncé, the person and super-secret album of […]

A couple months ago, a guy wrote in saying that he had found his girlfriend’s birth control pills in the trash. Wifey and me stop using latex a while ago. She is on the pill. Today, I go to dump the bathroom trash. I hear rattling. What do I find? Pills! She ain’t taking them. […]

“Can a woman really make a good leader?” I rolled my eyes dramatically and looked out at the Brooklyn, N.Y., skyline. I’d been invited to a rooftop event, a monthly brunch when a group of mostly accomplished women, with degrees and jobs and probably a side hustle or two, gather to network. Usually I prefer […]

Over the weekend, I attended a brunch where I had an interesting discussion with a few women, some of who hold a rather cynical view of relationships. The cynics believed that all men are capable cheating, and further this makes them justified in snooping through emails, cell phones, voicemails and stalking her significant other (and […]

Happy New Year!!!  Hey ya’ll. I’m back. I had a glorious holiday break. Hope you did the same.  I wrote a million blogs, but I’m posting them in the order I wrote them- which means you’ll get a New Year’s rant in about 12-15 days if I keep this up. I probably won’t. I’m feeling […]